How to Bring Joy Back into Your Life!
Well, we survived! We made it back from our skiing trip without any broken bones. Mission accomplished! As I was reflecting on the weekend, I just kept thinking about how much fun we had! So, I decided to write about…JOY! Doesn’t that sound like fun?
We, as a family, like many families, can get wrapped up in the busy day-to-day hustle and bustle of everyday life. When we are on, what can feel like auto pilot, I feel it would be safe to say that “joy” may not be the first feeling we would use if we had to fill out a “tell me how you feel right now” questionnaire:)
The interesting thing about joy is it is actually our authentic state of being! Interesting, I know! However, joy can often be diminished for a number of reasons: We have too much going on, there is too much to do, we are too tired. The list can go on and on. We could easily list the things take our joy, but what brings us joy?
Here are 3 steps you can take that will bring joy back into your life!
- Take Risks and Do Something Different
How many of you feel bored and unfulfilled, because your schedule is the same week after week? How many of you are really busy, yet bored, at the same time? I guarantee that if you do something you have been thinking about doing for a while, your joy will instantly increase!
I have to be honest; the idea of going skiing was slightly intimidating, but I knew it was something I wanted to do with my family. Once I hit the slopes (bunny hill), I never felt more alive as the wind wildly blew (more like a very slight breeze) through my hair as I sped (snowplowed slowly) down the hill! Regardless of how big or small the task, just do it! Get out of the monotony of day-to-day life and try something different!
- Be Willing to Make Mistakes
I think three of the biggest things that can hold us back from doing things that would bring us joy is fear of what others will think of us, fear of being vulnerable, and fear of failure. Again, going back to my skiing scenario, there was a small part of me that was feeling intimidated and vulnerable just by the thought of being around really strong skiers. There was another part of me that was feeling vulnerable about what others may think about my “less than average” skiing ability.
These were not strong, in the front of my mind thoughts, but they were most certainly operating quietly in the background, causing me to feel little nervous about the trip. Well, needless to say, I was quite humbled and forced not to care what others thought when it came to the dreaded ski lift:) Every time we would approach the “landing,” my 9-year-old would say, “Mom, try not to fall this time.” Although his supportive words were kind, they did not stop the inevitability of me crashing EVERY TIME we got off of the lift. We would laugh so hard each time I crashed, because the crashes were not graceful by any means.
The point is, be wiling to make mistakes! Making mistakes means you are taking risks and doing something out of your comfort zone. Both of which will ultimately bring you joy. You will, more than likely, have a good laugh while doing it as well!
- When you have a passion about something, pursue it!
Life purpose and fulfilling your dreams of course are very important missions for some people. However, what I am talking about are the small things you know would bring you joy, but you are not doing them. For example, things such as painting, going for a walk, being in nature, scheduling a massage, playing an instrument, connecting with an old friend, and spending more time with your family. There are so many “little things” we can be doing to bring ourselves joy, but we block them out, because we tell ourselves “we are too busy”, “We would feel guilty if we took time for ourselves”, etc. We schedule so many things on our calendars; why don’t we schedule something fun for ourselves! We have to start scheduling things that would bring us joy and make it a priority. When you schedule things that bring you joy, you will be surprised with the amount of energy you have to take on the rest of the day!
Have a wonderful and joyful day;)
Ronda Stevens, MA, LMFT, Holistic Life Coach