Happy Tuesday! I hope your week is going well so far! My husband Marc and I had a weekend all to ourselves!The kids went to “Nana’s” house for the weekend so we were able to spend the weekend with just the two us! As much I love spending time together as a family, it was really great just to have time with my husband 🙂
If you have heard me speak out in the community or during one of my workshops, you are familiar with the fact that my growing up years were difficult. There was a lot of darkness within my immediate family because of my step-father’s untreated severe and persistent mental health disorder and his ongoing substance abuse and gambling addictions.
Although there was a lot of darkness during those difficult years, I always knew, at a deep level, things would not be like that forever. When I was little, I remember praying so hard my hands would tire. I remember daydreaming about what I wanted my life to look like. I remember choosing to focus on the light that surrounded me in darkness. It was that choice, as a small child, which allowed me to have hope things would be different eventually.
Before I continue, I want to say a few things. When I say “spirituality,” I mean this in a general sense. We all have our spiritual journeys. At this moment, you may feel confused about what spirituality means for you. You may be a spiritual individual, but you don’t feel connected, and that is ok! My intention to share my spiritual journey is not to press my beliefs onto you. My intention is to have you start thinking about your own spiritual journey in an attempt to get you “unstuck” and, hopefully, to move forward, allowing you to feel and understand, at a core level, how unconditionally loved you truly are!
At that age of 3 or 4, I remember praying for the first time with my Grandma and from that moment, prayer was a huge part of my life. Growing up, we did not go to church, but my relations
hip, faith, and trust in God was very strong as I felt He was the only person I could truly count on during those difficult years. That relationship kept me going and somehow made me realize my journey would allow me to help others in some way in the future.
As an adult, I attend church, but I have been noticing something interesting from the messages I have been receiving through my church and from working with my amazing clients, who teach and inspire me each and every day. I have been learning that people want to deeply connect with their spiritual connection, but they are often feeling like they are falling short in some way.
As I was hearing this story more and more, I continued to become increasingly curious. I have learned there are a lot of limiting beliefs when it comes to spirituality. The limiting beliefs serve as a barrier to fully embracing the divine presence that surrounds us every day.
Here are some common limiting beliefs around spirituality:
- If I open myself to spirituality, I will be judged.
- I need to be perfect to have a spiritual connection.
- If I mess up, I will no longer be loved by my spiritual connection.
- I need to do certain things to be loved by a spiritual connection.
- I’m afraid, if I get close to my spiritual connection, she/he will leave or abandon me.
- I’m afraid I will be let down by my Spiritual Connection.
- I’m afraid I won’t be able to connect.
When people struggle to connect with their spiritual connection, they often are battling certain emotions, which include:
- Lack of trust.
- Fear and Anxiety.
- Higher need to control self, others, and outcomes, because we don’t trust.
- Depression – not seeing life in the larger spiritual context.
- No sense of purpose or meaning in life.
- Feeling alone.
- Turning to addictions to fill themselves.
When people strengthen their spiritual connection, they start to experience:
- No longer feel they need to control everything.
- Experience more joy.
- Develop a deeper meaning and purpose in life.
- Feel connected.
- No longer feel the need to fill the void with addictive behaviors.
Here are a few tips to open up to your spiritual connection:
- Create space in your life that allows you to be open and to hear the subtle messages you are given every day. For spirituality, listening is often more powerful than talking.
- Dialogue with your spiritual connection. Ask questions, speak out loud, and write down the subtle messages or feelings you receive.
- Practice opening your heart and give yourself permission to fully receive and feel the love it has for you, just the way you are! Just breathe and take it in.
- Listen to inspirational music.
- Journal and/or write a Spritual Biography (Use this worksheet as a guide to help you in the process of writing your own spiritual biography)
- Get outside and be in nature.
- Move your body (dance, yoga, Tai Chi)
I want to wrap up by saying, again, this is not about me pushing any belief system onto you. This is about me lovingly suggesting you be curious about your relationship with your spiritual connection, determine where you are, and where you want to go!
You truly are amazing and deserve to receive fully the unconditional love that surrounds you every day!
I hope you have an amazing day and please email me with any comments or reflections you had while reading this article.
Ronda Stevens, MA, LMFT, Certified Holistic Coach
Ronda Stevens is a licensed mental health therapist, certified health & wellness coach, certified holistic coach, and founder of Ready, Set, Live Holistic Life and Wellness Coaching! Ronda has years of experience with compassionately guiding and supporting people make changes that dramatically improve and change lives! To learn more, please visit her website at www.getreadysetlive.com. You can call contact her via email at firstname.lastname@example.org . She is also available via phone 1-800-558-7080.